Commission on Evangelization

When a Loved One Leaves the Church. By Lorene Hanley Duquin, Our Sunday Visitor (2001). $10.98.

“The one thing I know is that it is a painful journey both for those who left and for those who pray for their return.” - D.C.H.

With these words, the author begins to explore a reality in our church today—families and friends of “inactive” Catholics. Interspersed with the thoughts and reflections of those who have left the church is information and guidance to those who have been “left behind.”

Many Catholics, in sanctuaries and pews, carry this pain silently. Some deal with guilt. Many wonder, “What did I do wrong? What didn’t I do?” To all of these people, this book offers the hope of finding comfort, understanding, strength, healing and the freedom to maintain communications with a loved one.

The book is divided into three sections: questions faced by families and friends; 12 difficult but common situations; and guidelines for when a person wants to return to the church or shows no interest in returning to church.

Each chapter combines stories both from contemporaries and saints, with practical advice, information and resources. I was impressed with the clarity and immediate usefulness of what is presented. Of special note are the chapters dealing with fundamentalists, cults, and explaination of the annulment process.

Reviewed by Lorraine Vancamp, Glenmary’s evangelization consultant.

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